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4 NLP Tricks Veteran Teachers Use To Turn Their Most Monstrous Student Into A Sweet Cooperative Angel

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Make no mistake, teaching is the most fulfilling and also the hardest job in the world. 

 

It brings a teacher immense gratification and joy to see a student who once struggled with simple Mathematics concepts to score pass that subject for the first time.

 

At the same time, it is heartbreaking when you work so hard to prepare an engaging and enriching lesson for your students, and then you see them play in class, not do their homework, and cook up all sorts of ridiculous excuses for their behavior.

 

If you’re a teacher, you have probably seen by now the magic your experienced colleagues can spin even with the most difficult child. You may have tried everything in the proverbial handbook – speaking nicely, using humour, inciting fear, and all to no or very limited success. And then this soft-spoken, mild-mannered, veteran teacher steps in, says a few words, and little monster promptly transforms into a sweet angel who does exactly as he or she is told.

 

Wouldn’t you like to know the secret?

 

Well, here it is. These teachers have learnt the power of language. They use a powerful skill, Neuro-Linguistic Programming to win over their pupils, even without the child realising it. They know how to use language to “push” their students’ metaphorical buttons such as “motivation”, “excitement”, “calm” and “decisiveness”.

 

Which brings me to my first point.

 

NLP Trick No. 1

Veteran teachers know that perception is not reality. Everyone has a different model of the world. When students show resistance, it is a sign of a lack of rapport. As teachers, it is our responsibility to use language to communicate precisely what we mean. We have to change our communication strategy until we get the response we want.

 

NLP Trick No. 2

They mind read.

 

No, they don’t actually have the superpower to peer into the depths of your mind. What they are good at, though, is claiming to know the thoughts or feelings of their most stubborn, most emotional student, without actually specifying the process by which they came to know the information.

 

You may notice that some of your senior colleagues use phrases such as “I know”, “I’m aware,” and “You may realise” a lot. It is not so much a language tic as it is a way to build rapport with a difficult student. These mind reads are seldom questioned. Imagine saying “You know as well as I do that learning is important” instead of “You don’t think learning is important at all” – it makes a huge difference to the student!

 

NLP Trick No. 3 

The best teachers know how to express opinions such that one thing means another. They use phrases and sentences that include words like “is” and “means” to verbalise new meanings in the mind of the listener (in this case, their students).

 

So, they may tell a student that “since you asked a question, it means you are really interested in this subject”. The student in question, who may have previously been told off for being disruptive and asking too many questions, will then start to believe that he or she has potential in this area and start to work extra hard – which in turn, of course, leads to better results, and even more interest in the subject. It is a win-win situation for both teacher and student.

 

NLP Trick No. 4

At this point, we have covered the key language patterns veteran teachers use to encourage and positively influence rebellious students. These are all really powerful Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) skills that are great for winning over even the most resistance of people.

 

You can supercharge these strategies by establishing rapport with your students too. This is done by creating similarity and reducing differences. You see, students like people who are like themselves. They will be more open to accepting your opinions and suggestions if you are able to match their body movements, tonality, and key phrases.

 

No, I’m not saying that you have to mimic them. It would obviously look quite silly and you do need to demonstrate some level of respectability at the end of the day, which would be difficult if you go around parroting things your students say, like “Ok boomer”. 

 

If you have the time, I’d encourage you to join me at my free NLP Introductory Workshop to find out more. You will learn more about these techniques, and you can also speak to us for more information and get any burning questions to you have about NLP answered.  Click here to find out more!

 

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How The Top Salespeople Overcome The “Shame Of Selling”

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My friend, I know that sales is not an easy industry to be in. And before you read on, I’d like you to ask yourself the following questions:

 

  • Do you believe in your product?
  • Is your customer the right person to benefit from your product?
  • Are you sharing genuine information with your customer?

 

If your answer is yes to all of the above, give yourself a pat on the shoulder, because you are an ethical salesperson who has immense potential to become a fantastic salesperson once you kick that pesky sales shame to the curb. What you need to learn is a very powerful Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) skill called reframing. It’s what I myself used to change my own perception of selling years ago.

 

Now, I have to admit that in the past, I felt very uncomfortable with selling. I did not have a good impression of “salespeople” and felt uneasy asking people to buy things and hand over their money. I also felt “pai seh” (embarrassed) telling people my strengths.

 

Eventually, I realised that as long as I was uncomfortable with selling and could not sell well, I could never achieve any of my goals. In order to master the skill of selling, I had to change the negative perceptions I had towards it!

 

Perhaps you, like me, feel uncomfortable asking people to buy your product and to pay money for it. Think of it this way: if your product is something that truly will add value to and benefit a person, you are doing him or her a favour. There is nothing to feel uncomfortable about.

 

In fact, you should feel really proud of yourself. If you hadn’t approached this customer and offered him or her your product, this customer wouldn’t have the chance to experience these benefits and conveniences. Your customer may still be doing things the old, tedious, and tiring way.

 

This, in a nutshell, is what reframing is. :) Using this skill, you can easily take the most common and difficult objections your prospective customer has about your product, and transform them into golden opportunities to sell!

 

In this cheat sheet, I have consolidated the 9 most common objections all salespeople encounter in their career, and how you can easily turn every one of them into a compelling reason for your customer to purchase from you using reframing.

 

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